Dementia Resilience - 7.22.18

Sunday, July 22nd

Jill Lorentz originally hails from the great farm country land of Illinois and has lived in Denver since 1984. When her mom was diagnosed with a form of dementia in the early 90's, Jill dedicated her life to learning about the disease, which lead to her career path of working with families and professionals who need assistance in this area as well. Believing caregivers can hold the key to setting the tone of emotional stability for the person with dementia, Dementia Resilience with Jill Lorentz sponsored by Belleview Heights Alzheimer’s Special Care Center will take an in depth look at how we can strengthen our techniques, strategies, and even our compassion to help people live with this disease; not to struggle with it. Our show's goal is to have a candid conversation about dementia and its effects on those it touches and to ignore ridiculous talk of a stigma attached to Alzheimer's. Resilience is your ability to adapt well and recover quickly after stress, by overcoming obstacles and adversity to find a positive outcome. People who have a resilient disposition are better able to maintain poise and a healthy level of physical and psychological awareness in the face of life's challenges. This 1/2 hour radio show, Sunday mornings from 10:00 -10:30 will explore avenues of intentional care and finding moments of joy while living with dementia. 

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Welcome to dementia resilience with the chill arrest sponsored by building heights alzheimer's special care center. A candid conversation as we learn about dementia alzheimer's and it's effects on the people we love. Jill has years of dedication and experience help you adapt to recover overcome obstacles and help find a positive outcome it's time for dementia resilience with the Jill Lawrence. Hey good morning caregiver nation. I've got a great show today after all he's family members out there who are looking for some help with your loved ones. And need to know how to bring home care company in to assist you with anything you need I guess the answer for you today. So grab your pin and paper because you're gonna wanna know I have some guests here today from home instead Denver north. I love. Home instead Denver north holly and Kurt bows to own that particular franchise. And I do training up fair for the alzheimer's. To have terra Avon and tiny here with me. To discuss how you come into a home and work with their loved ones and give them some great advice what do you think ladies welcome think you need to ask her eight. So. The first question I have for all three B we'll start with you Tareq. Would love about being in a home instead caregiver. Well mostly it's that one on one. Stuff that we'd get to do that we get to do bring in now. It's it's a personal touch you know I get to sit down one on line and get to know them. Find out. They're ins and outs find their way into their heart. So here you go and you still love you Phillip Thompson long time over ten years. Some great longevity with the caregivers there not going anywhere. Okay yeah I need non. You know I really love most is getting to meet new people are and keen to learn more about them and finding. In about him to be nice ways to really meet them where their needs are. Earn and that's not only mean the people that and take care of but their family members and is making them feel comfortable that someone's looking after that one bedroom and you're the new kid on the block action Tunney. Both sort of asserting January. About six months say yeah yeah how'd you like so I'm really enjoying you know I real. Enjoy a being able send me to make connections with someone that I. My on otherwise the opportunity. To me lift the zoo and it gained every person and as Matt has amazing stories to share none is just a great experience to be able to join in math. Rudy mean no on my show here. We mostly deal with people who have some type of the dementia diagnosis Parkinson's disease alzheimer's. Frontal temporal whatever it is but. Terror wanna start with you whom. Win a family calls and your scent there you received an assessment you know a little bit about the Stanley it's not always easy. To get the person whether they have a diagnosis or Nat. To let you into the house yeah. In front door rang eight have you ever had a challenge with that oh absolutely have you dealt with it usually. If I'm when I'm mad at the door and there's resistance I usually just say you know I completely get that. I would personally feel a little bit. I'm comfortable with a stranger coming in my hall room so I say that out right I guess that. I totally understand how you would feel like it it makes a difference doesn't it in her eyes that person and understand I had a client once that. I think that was the fourth or fifth character that knocked his door. Hey. And he said. I don't want to hear I I wish she would just go and I sit you know Bob I completely understand how you feel. And I would feel the same way right and this is why don't just come on endless have a cup of coffee and it was just like NASA. Well you're here now you might just come on man. Well I think part of it is your warm demeanor in a more of the warmest sweetest people think I've ever happened to me I love that. And so lol all I have IE none or Tunney either one have you have you ever worked for the person you. Was really lonely like nobody's nobody's been there to visit him for a long time and now you've come in May be because somebody came home for the holidays. And saw grandma grandpa mom or dad. You know has. Some issues and they need some additional help and neither reviewed humans have been. On that yeah say. United can put the most printing this is when you meet someone find out what they're interested in mentioned there you can kind of think of activities to do is someone. So for example and that with a woman whom she now has many visitors and choose his tenant herself as a kind of her interest she used to play piano. My issue is really into musicals she had one musical CD that Israel is listen to. As a first time together or go rent a musical CD move listens good and chancellor. Into a puzzle together and she seemed to really intranet and that's OK Yvonne do you have. You know when I'm in somebody's. Omen I'm trying to land more about that men are no way to brighten their day I really like to look around their home and Hewitt paying on their walls what they're displaying. In any engagement conversation about. You know asking about those family members in the pictures or place that they've traveled very momentous that they have displayed on their shelves and they usually engage us and you know some really great stories and some talking points. Oh so true so it person centered care that I talked about a lot on the show it's really important to me that we understand who that person was what they did. For a vocation. An occupation in their life in the volunteer anywhere we really use that information can't wait yeah absolutely. So you know so the biggest issues that we have. Are are finding. Not only those. Interest that they have a meaningful activities but families have a lot of trouble for example with bathing. Terry even at this ten years and we had many creative ways that you've helped with somebody that may be a family member just said I can't get mom or doubters so on so on so husband whenever today. Well certainly. And I think that. The best way I've been able to approach it is just to physically go to that Sharon our area. And walk through my stuff. Put my client. In the position of caregiver and media the client and I would just step in and sit down just kind of literally go through the motions this is how it's gonna go. And if they don't. When doing okay. You know we don't have modeling CA showing them what to do and then you get up meth negative if they're not ready to do it stay SOK we'll try again tomorrow. I have a client that literally it took months. Hand if I was given her sponge bouts. She did help alzheimer's so blockers and issue. Right right with alzheimer's coming down in their face it's scary eerie I'm comfortable for them pick almost painful and so. So just little bit by little bit I finally got her to into the shower got her out. She put her bathroom by she sat down her comfy chair anxious as terra. I am so sorry. That it took this long ball out of almost enjoyable shower I ever had some Lee and it does so I'm staying patient did. And just waiting you know Beckley I'm in honor tonic any thoughts. No you know. I think. I really got approach to that earned it also to ask them you know what's keeping them for me being glad they are afraid. So that we you know I mean and mean preconceptions that you have on why they aren't wanting to baby my. You know learn something new maybe they're afraid of falling. Maybe is that the water is scary sensation of themselves. Taking that time das then you know what they're fearful about and really showing that you understand that and you're there to Hopkins that. I love that the Tellme more theory Wrangler. And maybe it's as simple as that color content lack of color contrast in the in the shower maybe they can't see the bench because it's light in the and if it's in the bathtub. You know that kind of thing so being very conscious of that. So like I said folks I really love that I have some great caregivers here today with homestead Denver north. And they are gonna give us some good ideas. About ways to work with our loved ones and what do we do we call home care company to come in this is probably the best in the city. I love these ladies and the guys that work there. Knew when we come back from a break we're gonna have more questions about how to get my loved one to go out of the house. What activities do we utilized during different seasons and things like that so stay with this grab that hadn't pinch and we will be right back. Making the decision to place your loved one in the care of others is one of the most difficult decisions you'll ever have to make if that's someone special is in your life and is needing memory care. Bellevue heights is the place to call home. Bellevue traits part of the GA's senior living Stanley is deeply committed to serving people living with alzheimer's and other related dimensions. Living with purpose and meaning is the best reward at Bellevue heights alzheimer's special care center. Your loved one will live life to its fullest licensed nurses aren't step 24 hours a day. Compassionate caregivers and three well balanced meals and three healthy snacks are a few key elements of the G-8 eat age difference. We also offer fully furnished private and semi private groups and meaningful activities in scheduled outings. Called Bellevue heights at 3036900700. To learn more about the high standard of individualized care they can offer your loved ones. Bellevue heights alzheimer's special care center. Is located at 14 or 500. East Bellevue avenue in Aurora visit JEA senior living dot com. Or call 3036900700. To schedule a tour from one to Stanley come home to Bellevue heights. Welcome to dementia resilience we chill arrest sponsored by building heights alzheimer's special care center. A candid conversation as we learn about dementia alzheimer's and its effects on the people we love. Jill has years of dedication and experience help you adapt to recover and overcome obstacles and help find a positive outcome it's time for dementia resilience with the Jill our friends. All right I am back with the caregivers from home instead Denver north. And we I have some good practical applications for you today on the show I'm. I'm really excited about this because I like picking the brains of the people who do well. And I really think you all didn't really love what you do when they're at home instead so here's my question now. If a person a client hasn't been out of their house in a long time. Maybe they have alzheimer's. Early stages mid stages. Maybe they're just to read clues. And they haven't been out board don't have a driver's license that they never had the new reason to go out. Whatever it is they have been house for an outing in the long time. How do you work without I want each one he'd think about that giving a response Terry you're shaking your heads closer with the U. Trying to decide which scenario do you notice it but where will my round back around. And that was a challenge and we had a transfer board. But she was still not. Wanting to do that break and but my car unfortunately for me I have a very nice easy. To get into carts loaded the ground shook and I have grab bars here at rappers here UK riots in the dash and can't makes it easy. And we practiced. OK we're out to the car seat is today's the day they might try to since she said I'm not ready that's okay. Let me just show you my car you can you practiced. I just transferring sliding from her chair onto the board in Biden in my car very created and it. It took a long time right eight months probably yeah. But we did finally pick a light kit we finally got into my car and we just approach it. Militants came back big yeah that was something that she had not been able to do it in a very long time she chair bound suite for over a year suites. Yvonne money. You know I think it really goes back to training about what their interests are different kind of ways to modify that so. If they you really likes gardening or bird watching or just going to the park. If they're not ready to leave the house doesn't mean you can do in the yard and we eyes meeting them at their ability level where you know like you said taking a drive. Just going out to visit a friend there suddenly a symbol of that so really asking what those big interests are and finding a way to make it duel for them. Excellent and I think it's important to you to take baby sets especially if they haven't announced for a while. So maybe you walk with them to the mailbox but take a drive around the block and then from there and dependability on Anthony's based on their comfort level. See I told you we're having great information on the Saturday I will love it. So let's drill down a little bit activities during different seasons. Right eight and so is summertime right now it's a little hot blue. And it's not really is hot but summed it when it's really hot what kind of things. Can you do with fewer folks let's start with do you need guns. Right so it just. Summing outside by keeping initiating any being it to a short duration and really staying seated hub some conserve that energy and not get too overheated. On. Kenya symbolize like he's had going to the mailbox you know walking outside to look at their flowers. Or to just feel that I'm fresh air right what if it were winners times we have Connie what would you do in the fall or the winner. You know there's a franks who is that you can do inside the house again based on intensive thing that's keep seeing here with anything. Whether they like treating her movies are playing a puzzle together it just varies business and do you do you practice taking your folks. Alex. On a regular basis terrorist Wilshire. It I had a client that. In the winter months because. We perks I'm able to get outside and actually be outside we would get to conquer the jump. Will they go and just and just and really aren't just. Doing a little walking on the treadmill was her favorite thing to do news you know she was in her eighties. And had alzheimer's yes. And that people in the jam with see her command and it would apply to her RA long you know I give her such but because most of the time. She was sitting in her isolation you know alzheimer's intent to. Draw within bright and for her to get outs and half. Some meaningful. Exchange for people because she felt like she put she slips. We know why and that's because they feel like you're gonna say the wrong thing I had been and do the wrong thing they're gonna responded appropriately to something and that's really your job to keep them safe from high right. And when you're working with them for long periods of time you really build relationships with them so now let's. Let's tackle a tough question. And I really wanna know what to eat any of you have had an issue with this. I know there are times. When a spouse. Will say. Polish my wife can't do that or. Don't letter in the kitchen to help you with any thing or how do you work with spouses. Who are only seen what that person has lost not what they can still do. And that direct dichotomy that you're dealing with who wants to feel that first you look like Yvonne you've got a thought on that he. Can we are really tough spot to BA and because you're dealing with someone who has seen that person in. But they were there and and how they've banned throughout their life and they're coming in with a different perspective meaning memory there now. I'm so kind of just having that conversation and then you know I know him. I understand that what you're going through is tough and on that you're dealing with this all day on a daily basis but they're part of my job Vista puppy love lining cajun things meaning father than in a safe way. Herman and I'm gonna work with you both. And to make sure that your loved one is kept safe and still enjoying these daily activities. All right Terry you've got ten years in this century been counted more than once you know I have found that I can. Stepped into a home and say mr. What do you take a break. We just get you know this movie you tick if you even happier talking could you sum up he looked tired but given up all night right. Two different I've got this I'll take it from here don't worry about it you know. Tehran entry on the spot here for a second by the way I think you won the securities not ever personally men. But I share a story that involves you yes a couple of times are different Rachel yes and by all accounts. You were doing everything. As perfect as somebody could have thought you could have been doing great. Right but I get a call from Rachel because she was in my early stage class at the Alzheimer's Association. And she said. (%expletive) osteoporosis so wasn't necessarily easy to get her out anymore right and taker to the grocery store everything takes four times longer right. And so in your mind you just thought. As long as her husband was taken her to the gym right he was getting plenty of exercise. You pick up the groceries make it easy going fixed dinner. Let her just relax and enjoy after she got back from the gem. And you fix dinner for her cracked but. She started feeling diminished right unbeknownst to you react felt really bad about that yeah sorry I don't don't don't let this is where we learn yeah these are teaching moments right pat because fight for all intents and purposes. You are doing the exact right thing for what the circumstances presented to you pack but racial had come in a better husband thought she could. Go to ditched him but she was getting lost in the locker room yeah. She couldn't follow all the steps that it set and so after that we had a conversation. And a huge G started including her and things again. Helping with fixing dinner and helping with setting the table and and various things like that and we talked your husband in the letting her bowl. Brain right proud here that are proud of you a hole in the hallway yes we actually we're set up plastic not yeah I know rubber ball and yes and it got to be not just knocking them down that seven them baca became part of the activity to look that's exactly yeah eight yeah exercise that she was getting yeah she was purchased in good won't back I just ask you how that changed you as a caregiver and the impact it has on you do mine didn't talk. We'll be right back. Making the decision to place your loved one in the care of others is one of the most difficult decisions you'll ever have to make if that's someone special is in your life and is needing memory care. Bellevue heights is the place to call home. Bellevue heights part of the GA's senior living Stanley is deeply committed to serving people living with alzheimer's and other related dimensions. Living with purpose and meaning is the best reward at Bellevue heights alzheimer's special care center. Your loved one will live life to its fullest licensed nurses are instead 24 hours a day. Compassionate caregivers and three well balanced meals and three healthy snacks are a few key elements of the G-8 eat age difference. We also offer fully furnished private and semi private groups. Meaningful activities in scheduled outings. Called Bellevue heights at 3036900700. To learn more about the high standard of individualized care they can offer your loved one. Bellevue heights alzheimer's special care center. Is located at 14 or 500. East Bellevue avenue in Aurora visit JEA senior living dot com. Or call 3036900700. To schedule a tour from one to Stanley come home to Bellevue types. Welcome to dementia resilience we chill arrest sponsored by building heights alzheimer's special care center. A candid conversation as we learn about dementia and alzheimer's and its effects on the people we love. Jill has years of dedication and experience help you adapt to recover and overcome obstacles and help find a positive outcome it's time for dementia resilience with the Jill our friends. We're back with Darren caregivers from home instead Denver north. And I just put terra have Bennett on the spot she is just one of the best that really seriously when those caregivers. I've never met but we had a teaching moment yes and you handled it with such grace. And as we just wanted to finish that thought how did that affect you as a caregiver with all your years. To have something that you know you just saw you kind of plug along. It would do in the most efficient job of that famine that you could end by all accounts Huard tin on the scale of one to ten right. But then that that patient with alzheimer's actually said hey I wanna be more involved. In my whole let it things and I'm doing with terror I wanna I want her to include me in fixing dinner and I don't wanna go to Jim what my husband and so we had to come together and come up with a new plan because that's what happens right eighty balls. At that you. Well it certainly made me take a good look at myself. Because I did have a tendency to kind of walk again and take over things so I hate it focused me in on what her needs work. Yeah whether she spoke out to me or not I've got to hear about it and then I got to think about it and then I was able to OK Rachel. How about you chop up the carrots and I'll work on the chicken theory you can't you know we worked together and it worked out overly. Well is beautiful and we've used it as a teaching moment many times. To just say when you're 34 years with somebody when you're really with that person for a long time and you build that relationship. Eight it it it behooves us to sit down with them and say tell me what you need right now matter how you know even if they have short term memory it it helps right. I so let's move on to something else Tunney. What kind of let Q and Stiller technique can be used with somebody that our listeners would say wow how was it. I have just anything. You know anything's an A Hughes Kennedy Q2 maybe. Bring summoned back on topic or maybe switch topics. Is. Look at the pictures in their house ranking and nick snacks just ask them in on Tony sorry about that and then it kind of changes the subject a little bit of fear and their house. In what they usually do is I and ask about what's on their family members or their past her fashion usually of lieutenant Tommy agrees or about them and build conversational. It's okay you Monte I want. Yeah so it is such. You know I just really try to take a step back remained calm. And think about how she's feeling enough situation there on the outside that in a situation where in the middle of the night my client suddenly forgot that I am there to help her. You know she wanted to clean house and do things that. Early safe her ability level. So I wasn't afraid to you know talk to the family Seaway helps in those kind of situations. On talk to her be patient with her and it came down to you know letting her read a book at 3 in the morning. Tick kind of ease back into the sitting next to her showing here that you know I wasn't trying to make her do anything she you know when a deal. And then we kind of gradually just we're back into getting her back the bad and somewhere safer. So. So as we kinda close out this last session. Can you think of just a really greater fund's success story maybe you've had that you would like to share. With one of your clients. Yeah I have a good story there's one woman that I would take to church every morning. And silence go picker and when the locking Jennifer hi she allowed her house from the inside track and hi I know this is going so she closes the door. In very casually says post again he knows. He's good let's run. And she's and I locked my keys my personal house photo of his spare this trying to brainstorm ideas of how we can get back inside the house Tunney troubleshooter you know the theory goes. So she said oh well my kitchen window. Is unlocked and hoping to crawl through the kitchen window. And goes through my house and opened the door for me as I did. Oh I can't get up at a rods of the window. Luster house on the door and she got her keys and her person and we need to church on time we had a pretty good laugh about it out of that back so yeah. LO head who's next. Well Tara getting back. Took Bob okay. Knocking on his door and helping him make me go away but then I ended up coming up for coffee right we ended up meeting every morning at 7 AM. For that coffee he'd old pretty happy this breakfast by coming out there. You still are you ready to go you could be twelve degrees outside and we would put down to Berkeley. Park the lake. Great and we would go three times around that lake this is what this is a man who was a marine okay. But there race small in stature. And just moved a little goat looked a little map and I'm not and then he would just go go go and I chipped up. We up. Yeah now and then we got to where we were so comfortable with each other I would actually tell him Bobby you're like an old goat. Pump and on those rocks would skip oh Ross funny I gotta get left the model we would laughter would watch the sunrise. We we watched the sunrise it would be bundled up could ease and gloves and scarves to be very cold. But asked what he wanted to do so that's what we did silly and make us some really good exercise out of it and just really have really fun conversation. And truly. Enjoy that sun coming up and write you a little. Praise him I don't forget to stop and smell early as today it was great now I see not much younger. You know I ever trip. On several different types of clients and some my favorite kinds of requests are those on hospice care. If I just like being me you know that moment in their day to find you know about one way to break in it so some on mine. I'm most favorite moments of my clients are you know watching the Olympics with them frank you know picking your country or root for or are finding their favorite snacks. Talking with them and their families and just seeing that smile through some of those hard moments really brightens my day and they feel like how spread in their stay home. Moret well you know folks if you want to use at home instead Denver north the way you can reach them. Is you can call limit 30346319100. I'll say it again 303. 46319100. And their web site. If you're looking for work. Is home instead dot com slash Denver and north. And then go on their careers tab to apply for a job. They take good care we don't think girls and absolutely on hand or did they take his bit of peer review as they do there. There clients. I think that's probably the biggest thing about home and is that I happy resource you whose job is not always easy made it can be very emotionally draining. And I know I can pick up the phone and call and someone's gonna be on line and we listened. Yet and I did never hesitated never called to ask for how I actually stopped again. And closed the door with somebody and just had a good cry. Because I can just the best supports means. Or is and I can continue doing what I am doing perfect by stealing my cup back up. I'm an answer cup gets emptied. Well that's right she's on how to they failure emotional tank. You know we're really beg on us having quarterly meetings us communicating with other caregivers outside of our chefs and I think that that's a huge resource because. You caregiver it can be a lot as feeling like you're on your own and going to different people's houses and not really seeing your coworkers. And home instead really works to tackle that issue by having us meet regularly and feel like. For not only connected to the company but to each other as well when and they also follow up with us and give us a call just to check and see how we're doing just symbolism them. I know it's a great place to work and I'm just gonna plug this for a second. All of you have been to my alzheimer's training and I hope it's been helpful to you along main aim at hand even do an eight hour class Erica in the rest have you been to four hour classes. But it makes a difference when you commands to somebody's home and you know which you don't look. Thank you for being here today so much I love it I hope cared urination you learned something today column at 30346319100. By the way you can find. Look. You've been listening to dementia resilience would still horrendous sponsored by build your rights alzheimer's special care center. Visit the website at some resilience training dot com to learn more. And join us next week as we learn more about dementia alzheimer's and overcoming obstacles for the positive outcome to see you next time.
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