Dementia Resilience - 9.17.17

Sunday, September 17th

Jill Lorentz originally hails from the great farm country land of Illinois and has lived in Denver since 1984. When her mom was diagnosed with a form of dementia in the early 90's, Jill dedicated her life to learning about the disease, which lead to her career path of working with families and professionals who need assistance in this area as well. Believing caregivers can hold the key to setting the tone of emotional stability for the person with dementia, Dementia Resilience with Jill Lorentz sponsored by Belleview Heights Alzheimer’s Special Care Center will take an in depth look at how we can strengthen our techniques, strategies, and even our compassion to help people live with this disease; not to struggle with it. Our show's goal is to have a candid conversation about dementia and its effects on those it touches and to ignore ridiculous talk of a stigma attached to Alzheimer's. Resilience is your ability to adapt well and recover quickly after stress, by overcoming obstacles and adversity to find a positive outcome. People who have a resilient disposition are better able to maintain poise and a healthy level of physical and psychological awareness in the face of life's challenges. This 1/2 hour radio show, Sunday mornings from 10:00 -10:30 will explore avenues of intentional care and finding moments of joy while living with dementia. 


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Welcome to dementia resilience we chill arrest sponsored by building heights alzheimer's special care center. A candid conversation as we learn about dementia and alzheimer's and it's effects on the people we love. Jill has years of dedication and experience help you adapt to recover and overcome obstacles and help find a positive outcome it's time for dementia resilience with the Jill Lawrence. Good morning every line and hope it's a beautiful day where you aren't sure is where we are. I am so happy to have Linda Holloway hear from Ben sees hope welcome Lenny now. Welcome to you I'm glad to be here glad to have you today so you are the owner of the cease hope one of the co founders and owner. Tell much listeners a little bit about Bessie so what an awesome Morgan. They should you have well it's actually the only one in the country who actually focuses on. Enhancing the quality of life for nursing home and assisted living elders through involving the whole community in very structured. Volunteer programs for youth groups families individuals. Until groups. Anybody who wants to make a difference and that. A feeling of loneliness and being forgotten. Awesome and this all started because of your grandmother what impact did she have on you. That made this dream a reality for him. Well she helped raise me during those developmental years of scum like a pelican hit two mothers. And so when she developed alzheimer's disease. I'm it was who very much a god thing Amazon being very. Synchronous stick between my grandmother in god that this organization was going to be born because subsequently my mother had to make that difficult decision. Of nursing home placement. And in Texas. Is I was in a place and they they really didn't know how to deal. With. That population. And so is a very tragic experience. And from that. I became very angry because I went down there every month. Is this is my precious little grandmother sewer and I would stay at night and day in the nursing home in Ennis as a musician. And just you know loving that population I used to do a lot of things in nursing homes wherever I was in the country. But until my grandmother's experience I never just been denied there. And that's when I saw that well. Most of people don't have families. Who come here and when these people are are. So isolated from the rest of the community anyway all this just became such a stark reality Timmy. And so my co founders not decided. Since granny was not alone in this obviously we solved these people who were much worse off in terms of loneliness because my mother went to every day. And I was there every month. And then some people had nobody more so with so let's do something about it. OK and so what you try to do is take at risk youth. Helped him grow emotionally. And learn some responsibility in the community right. So tell us about those kids how many kids participate their ages within a kind of well he they used an elder program has the college is our largest volunteer program and so we work every year between with between 15102000. Youth from preschool through high school but. A large percentage are from Everest programs and also residential treatment sinners for the really. Quote unquote hardcore kids look which didn't seem to be the ones that we have the most success stories from ho hum because they do as he says that he gets them into that feeling of responsibility. And and they're from this from this experience. Incident being one of those. Entities said just continues to do Ellen hopelessness and drain on themselves a nom society on the community and they keep sleeping through the cracks because of this he's so experienced. They do develop into responsible thing and the key words compassionate. Responsible. Adults and so what are their agents. Well with at risk kids especially in the residential treatment sinners dislike between thirteen and eighteen okay. He worked with younger kids yeah okay we work infect we work with the little darlings little little preschool. Kids. And end it but they're her level of their understanding we give them training to OK because we want. We want everybody to have the education. Of the population that they're going to be working with at the level of their understanding like I said but we also want to make sure they all have. Communication tools we can how do you find them. Well women elder care community. Because a partner with us then we find the closest school or church group are at risk program our scout troop. But Aybar and also youth groups call us now because it where an hour 23 year and so. Word got out that this really makes a very significant difference in kids also where plugged into the service learning and own. And we are learning survey agency so we can plug this into the academic curriculum because they found all of our kids. Read at some. Portion of time with their elders. And that's a key word will not two but with him time and they also they all do a living history. Project from second grade on where they can interview their Graham partner. And then write up a little biographical sketch mechanic grant those who feel you think that's dialing. Yeah paso schools Collison. Other groups call us and sometimes it's for just a one time visit but even if it's just a one day community service. We trained in so it's a meaningful experience okay. Do you mind telling us how you train number for what you processes I think our listeners would find that fascinating might might Nolan grandchild her. Niece and nephew or son in the might wanna be your program so yeah just waiting you know. And I'm glad you brought that up because we hear from parents. That because of the experience with Arab and with our program. When they wouldn't back to whatever state to visit their parents or their grandparents that they were able to interact with people in the nursing home. More effectively because of their their child who is saying oh no this is what you need to do ha. And so what we do is we give them like a city education. About the population so we spent a lot of time on all Summers can and will telling them things like if if they think pitcher somebody that your not. Go along with the B debt personally explain to them that the reality. The end where the alzheimer's person is at any given moment is truly their reality capsule and and the kids actually get that. One little 99 year old boy had detail is mother. When when his mother was encounter we encountered a little woman who just grant turned thought she was hazel who attempt to. Take her home and she and the little boys sit it's okay mom she's touched hungry. When I just another said. Well sweetie I'm not hazel on his mother the little boy goes mom just be who she thinks you are. So who me out and you know it's very important plus the respect in the compassion. That they give because we go into stories you know we say. You know these people would they have lights to. And they were young they were they had jobs summit had really great fascinating job you're gonna learn about as she talked with him. Some of them lived in the farm farm and some of them rode horses to school you're gonna you're so many great stories. And they don't get to share these stories. And and so we actually filled the kids with compassion without their even knowing it so when they get there they can't wait. To really literally be all over the people because. The step number one for us we have four steps step number one is take your Graham partner's hand and look into their nice great so that's why you see all of our youth groups touching immediately. Okay all right let's step number two. You you tell them your name okay and step number threes you ask their name earning and step number four is you get a compliment. And we spent a lot of time monster number three because if they don't know their name aren't they didn't here's the question then we go through all that. Rang so the connecting pieces huge in the beginning stages so make sure you in some way acknowledge them and didn't say something kind against the warm right at CU grade were harmed excellent work let's talk a little bit more about this and what the percentages and in nursing homes but wouldn't take a break and listen to work. My sponsor and will be right back making the decision to place your loved one in the care of others is one of the most difficult decisions you'll ever have to make. If that's Simmons specialist in your life and is meaning memory care Bellevue heights is the place to call home. Bellevue heights part of the JEA's senior living family is deeply committed to serving people living with alzheimer's and other related dimensions. Bellevue heights believes that supporting families and caregivers is just as important as caring for our residents we offer free monthly support groups. Education and lecture series and presentations by experts in alzheimer's and dementia care. All of our programs are free and open to the public. Called Bellevue heights at 3036900700. To learn more about the high standard of individualized care. They can offer your left I'm. And ask the matter current and upcoming education opportunities and support groups. Tell you how it's alzheimer's special care center is located at 14 or 500. East Bellevue avenue in Aurora. Busy JEA's senior living dot com or call 3036900700. To schedule a tour come into Stanley. Come home to Bellevue height. It's welcome to dementia resilience could chill arrest sponsored by building heights alzheimer's special care center. A candid conversation as we learn about dementia and alzheimer's and its effects on the people we love. Jill has years of dedication and experience help you adapt to recover and overcome obstacles and help find a positive outcome it's time for dementia resilience with the Jill Lawrence. Okay anywhere that can my guest today is Linda Holloway from Jesse's hopefuls. And I love your program Linda it's just beautiful ladies taped the youth of our city. And integrate them into a program. Where did they not only grow. And learned compassion. And learn to be responsible. Adult some day. But and it brings joy to people in nursing homes people with alzheimer's and different types of dementia that. I really appreciate and it's really apparent that the ripple effect from the impact of this. Is public don't lesser after life isn't that your hope. Oh yes you know we we did have some. And it does go little. Story see no proof of that that I wish we had more you know wish we had a way to attract people. The number of years down the road that you know when when you run into kids and they tell you that it changed their life. And that they discovered if they didn't change their ways they were gonna have any stories like they heard. Speak in the stories. Success stories that she could tell oh sure. Black gum. One. One employee. Who was with that he was at a residential treatment center for two years. And then after he graduated he in fact he responded so well to the program. That we had him speak it's an Arab main fund raising event that your. And one of the things he said that night was so moving he said I didn't know it could be sweet. And this woman can't tell me how sweet allies let us up a feel my co-founder attended. A crime prevention. Being in Washington DC okay and that year and so he heard she heard somebody call her name but she didn't say hey Sharon. He we were called rainbow bridge for fifteen years for your listeners who might know of rainbow bridge but don't know this he's so look anyway at that time we restore a rainbow bridge. So she heard a voice say hey miss rainbow bridge. And says she turned around and it was Roberto. And so she said I'm not so good to see you then they talked a policy so what he's doing and he says I work with that risk kids. It's awesome one I've debt the folks really appreciate that too because we know. That many of the people in these communities. After the first month or two friends and family stop coming. And sometimes. No one visits. And so that's difficult that's a big reason why you make this connection right. Yes and you know we can always use more volunteers whether it's youth groups are individuals or families because. The dreadful. And constable statistic is that 60% of nursing home. Elders nationally received no personal visitors. So. Without no personal visitors. You don't have that person who's got the time to sit there we teach a sip their refutes man so that's why the training. Is so important too because especially people with alzheimer's. And depending on where they are in that dreadful course of deceased. You know Damon not just beyond their verbal and and be able to just sit there in today's stories but. We diet we don't even know the impact of just sitting there with them for half an hour. And touching him stroking their hair and that's what you see sometimes our kids doing. Absolutely and the tackle in the sensory is so important when the communication becomes non verbal. And those are the forgotten people exam I mean he knows so that's. That's tough but this won't help shooting create really long term relationships it is the kids keep coming back even when marital. You know a lot of times they do. Minute depends on. And geography plays a lot and it sometimes likely they've gone through this school year they'll continue over the summer sometimes they do come back. To see the person that they were. They were visit team before through the schooler but never end like this that I just switch that. We could somehow. Trek this long term because. It works on. Both sides obviously good for the kids who have unfortunately more life to live than the elders. It's more impact pool money and we do know that it's going to change them at their core for the rest of their lives. So in with all this you're area of expertise is always educating the kids in the adults that are working with that. With them but really you're working non cognitive functions you're trying to. Help people communicate they can't communicate it's more than just a pat on the hand or. And hide it's it's trying to teach kids non verbal communication. That's an art form her mini adults can't figure that out or eat Louisiana. It's that part of your training. Yes okay infect the art of listening to. Has sort sort of gone by the wayside is because of our frantic pace that's a great way to put it on the art of listening time. And so we who are kids who listen and they're UC patients. So it's kind of like along with compassion is the patients. And they listen. And sometimes it takes acquire all for the elder to. Even until once tenants but the story. That they are taught to listen and they and I think that that helps slow them down and they in train into this. Slower pace set is healthy anyway. Eight and it's not you not ought to. I've always thought that as a volunteer you get so much more than you give. But that kids need their working to try to achieve the communication with the person with the disease. But the truth of the matter is that. The personal that the disease has a lot of wisdom in history that they can share mare well you know this journey hobby going down. Instead the and the kids love that we said we were they read about them a lot and when we when we ask for. You know very valuations and and for their comments and for their thinking is to sponsors because we have Oliver kids and elders right. The thing cues. And the kids always talk about the cool stories. Have. And that and since they do have to write about some of these cool stories. Then it's more implanted didn't you know within them but for the elders on my goodness just to be validated enhance among. Say well now tell me more. Right they don't have they don't get them very often I'm sure they don't. And that's just I mean the best way to say that is his very life enriching for everybody I'm very. A win win yeah so you're not only working with kids. Of all ages that families individuals. Businesses civic organizations. And we again to provide the training so. If any listener out there would like to adopt someone who has no one. And be like the surrogate family. We have to orientations every month that the best he's hope office and then the individual or the families. Or couple whatever are are placed. In a conveniently located. At nursing home or assisted living and also then their energies to a number of people. Who don't have anybody and then they sort of gravitate. To the person who they they feel would it be your it'd be a natural. I think sometimes people go I I can't choose some is gonna visit all of them as many as I can you pretend like him that's great. That's from hills leakage because of several people that are going to be missed analyst ray moved in absolutely so. I bet. You probably working with. 10s20s. Hundreds of their communities where many right now we're about thirty OK who. Yeah we would like more and we would like to be national we would like to be internationally actually NN affiliate in Germany that. That's another story and another time putt and a cup where I but. So with those with those communities we do provide all the TC and we provide. The trained. Underscore trained. Kids and adults. To volunteer in the different programs with their adult. Program the group's. We train them just like kids can theory kid. Will be back in just a minute we're gonna talk more about that then also how listeners can get that they'd like to support your nonprofit okay all right thinking. Making the decision to place your loved one in the care of others is one of the most difficult decisions you'll ever have to make if that's someone special is in your life and his needing memory care. Bellevue heights is the place to call home. W heights part of the GA's senior living Stanley is deeply committed to serving people living with alzheimer's and other related dimensions. Living with purpose and meaning is the best reward at Bellevue heights alzheimer's special care center. Your loved one will live life to its fullest licensed nurses are instead 24 hours a day. Compassionate caregivers and three well balanced meals and three healthy snacks are a few key elements of the GE age difference. We also offer fully furnished private and semi private rooms and meaningful activities in scheduled outings. Called Bellevue heights at 3036900700. To learn more about the high standard of individualized care they can offer your loved one. Bellevue heights alzheimer's special care center. Is located at 14 or 500. East Bellevue avenue in Aurora visit JEA senior living dot com. Or column 3036900700. To schedule a tour. Come come to Stanley come home to Bellevue heights. Welcome to dementia resilience with the chill arrest sponsored by ability heights alzheimer's special care senator. A candid conversation as we learn about dementia and alzheimer's and its effects on the people we love. Jill has years of dedication and experience help you adapt to recover and overcome obstacles and help find a positive outcome it's time for dementia resilience with the Jill our friends. Okay Linda so happy to have you today. And I'm gonna have you give your website your phone number here in just a minute and a couple more questions and asking about. So each year. There's over 2000. Somewhere in the neighborhood of nursing home and assisted living elders. That benefit this season. Lot of people my friend yes it is and then we're small but we're minding the fact that I'm not that I love that. And really what you're going for his compassion respect. And sometimes. And we don't wanna just make a blanket statement here but sometimes. People worry that are used. Are just not getting enough of that the Mimi society's just not. Seeming to come up with the compassion and respect that that maybe we were taught his kids says something that you're trying to focus on nature. That they have that that's lunches kids it's that seems to be lacking in our our society as a whole it's a fair statement. Oh yeah in fact my my co-founder Sharon. Actually contacted two at the preeminent experts on the bullying active epidemic. In our country. With with so many kids of all ages and so she talked with him and both of them agreed in Sid yes she condemned police say you made in an impact. On them on bullies or future bullies because what you're doing is instilling within them something that can be. Talked it has to be internalized attest to be experience and that his compassion. Because then the ingredients of a person that's missing in all bullies is compassion. Ring boy if you can ignite geeks and spark that in their hearts and minds and wow. Then they'll be the ones I walked out on the street saying no you're not gonna grab that little lady's purse that's eggs how clean her right. So as a nonprofit it's it's a pretty tight race out there for dollars. But if there's an organization. That is looking for help with. At risk teens who are at risk youth or anything like that and they can. Call you and maybe you can make a connection work that out so let's talk about that you depend on dip donations events and grants to continue your work you've been around what 23 bringing the outs when he three years very cool. So do you have some upcoming events should like to tell stuff. Yes indeed we have our fourteenth annual. Voeller Rama who had led the bowl. And that's for all ages literally we have from two years old. 200 continued but king and a lot of our nursing home and assisted living people come. And we we also I had sponsored teams for youth and elders so that. The youth can help put the ball on this ramp that goes down from the wheelchair arm for instance he. And yeah. And trauma. And then we have families who participate. Okay. Where were those locations be they are. East and south and to north we have to Brunswick zone Westminster. And then we have to Littleton lanes and it canning line road in university now okay. SE is Monaco lanes at least Allen Monaco okay Bobby at the Littleton location house that this November 4 though right or fourth. November 4 and what time and it's early in the day so there but it's not too early people can still sleeping and so twelve until thirty akin check again and you get pizza lunch how and a 130 to 330 bowling. Okay immediately followed with awards. And threw out the bowling though the DNC's are always giving little prizes for people who for instance. The next person who is who as a red hair the bowls a strike gets. Mama. And I really sounds fun he would feed me. Give me some good laughs get me some exercise them all over I'll be there now promising all right so tell our listeners. What you website is indeed your phone number please repeat vote twice future pen and paper out folks. Do is Jill says. It doesn't add Deb being Deb. A Debian dot bid sees hope dot organ that's BE SSI. ES hope dot org. You can call me at 3038309037. That's 3038309037. We're still looking for sponsors by the way. And sponsors of all levels and you can go to our website at this sees hope dot org. And find that sponsors arrange all the way from 250 to 5000. Okay and anywhere that your your heart wants to take Q and we depend on this. Even in very significantly. Further risk to the years so the money that's coming in now for the event is helping us do what we've just been discussing here. Love that they can donate online as well and yes I BSE so dot org yes OK well folks this is a really really important. Organization. I love what you're doing out there connecting kids and elders and people with alzheimer's who so desperately need the visits and and so forth so. I'm really glad your here Linda and thank you so much for that thank you very much you've bed and now up come name next week. I am really excited to let you know then I'm gonna have the lieutenant governor Donald Lin on the show. And I'm gonna talk to her about. What I think is important which is donating to alzheimer's research. We're gonna thank the governor and the governor's office for participating in making sure that doctor potter and his company grew out there at University of Colorado. A health hospital. Have all the dollars they need but the truth of the matter is there's three million dollars behind. And I just wanna see what the lieutenant governor's focus is she comes from a health care background. And we're gonna talk to her and if any do you blisters one to send me some questions you'd like media ask Kirk I'd be happy to take those. And we can talk about that okay. And also in the upcoming weeks I ate in creating a book on line. That will help care givers and not only caregivers of people with the disease communicate with their caregivers. And I hope that's going to be helpful to people I've got a new Christmas CD I'm going to be so on on my website. That my husband and I just completed. And I am going to unleash on October 15. New facets to my website in terms of bundles and people like Glenda are contributing to its elements about the things that they're doing in ways that. They can communicate with people with alzheimer's all have. Good legal advice we'll talk about Medicaid Medicare will talk about looking for. A community to have your loved one and we'll talk about bringing home care and we'll talk about all the legal issues. And we're just gonna cover everything we possibly can so please by all means go back and listened says. Past podcasts on cruise in 14:30 AM we love it when you visit our site because there's lots and lots of shows you can listen to. Find help and assistance with just about anything under the sun and also go on my eyesight some resilience training dot com. Let's get via Debbie Debbie SUMMIAT. And resilience is easy dispel folks RE ESI ally. ENCE. Training dot com you wanna talk to me personally I get lots of calls on Monday mornings and I love it 303. 9991961. Again 3039991961. I love all the guests I bring on here because it's so diversified. And we talk a lot about all the different things we need so Linda thanks for bringing. To the attention of my listeners out there and cared urination. What you do it's important thank you Jill yeah. And so will be back with you next week with lieutenant governor Donnelly and we'll see you see folks keep listening keep in the account until mid. Tonight. You've been listening to dementia resilience would still horrendous sponsored by value priced alzheimer's special care center. Visit the website at summit resilience training dot com to learn more. And join us next week as we learn more about dementia alzheimer's and overcoming obstacles with a positive outcome to see you next time.